I first read this tract by R.C. Ryle as a young man and it impressed me greatly. I hope you are drawn to the Lord's friendship too. Andrew
CANT. V. 16. “This is my Friend.”
CANT. V. 16. “This is my Friend.”
A friend is one of
the greatest blessings on earth. Tell me not of money. Affection is better than
gold. Sympathy is better than lands. He is the poor man who has no
friends. Have you a friend?
This world is full
of sorrow, because it is full of sin. It is a dark place. It is a lonely place.
It is a disappointing place. The brightest sunbeam in it is a friend.
Friendship halves our troubles and doubles our joys. Have you a friend?
A real friend is
scarce and rare. There are many who will eat, and drink, and laugh with
us, in the sunshine of prosperity. There are few who will stand by us in the
days of darkness, few who will love us when we are sick, helpless, and poor,
few, above all, who will care for our souls. Have you a real friend?
Reader, do you want
a real friend? I write to recommend one to your notice this day. I know of one
“who sticketh closer than a brother.” (Prov. xviii. 24.) I know of one who is
ready to be your friend for time and for eternity, if you will receive Him.
Hear me, while I try to tell you something about Him.
The friend I want
you to know is Jesus Christ. Happy is that Christmas party in which Christ has
the foremost place!
I. Do you want a
friend in need? Such a friend is the Lord Jesus Christ.
Man is the neediest
creature on God’s earth, because he is a sinner. There is no need so great as
that of sinners. Poverty, hunger, thirst, cold, sickness, all are nothing in
comparison. Sinners need pardon, and they are utterly unable to provide it for
themselves. They need deliverance from a guilty conscience, and the fear of
death, and they have no power of their own to obtain it. This need the Lord
Jesus Christ came into the world to relieve. “He came into the world to save
sinners.” (1 Tim. i. 15.)
We are all by nature
poor dying creatures. From the king on his throne to the pauper in the
workhouse, we are all sick of a mortal disease of soul. Whether we know it or
not, whether we feel it or not, we are all dying daily. The plague of sin is in
our blood. We cannot cure ourselves, and are hourly getting worse and worse.
All this the Lord Jesus undertook to remedy. He came into the world “to bring
in health and cure.” He came to deliver us “from the second death.” He came “to
abolish death, and bring life and immortality to light through the Gospel.”
(Jer. xxxiii. 6. Rev. ii. 11. 2 Tim. i. 10.)
We were all by
nature imprisoned debtors. We owed our God ten thousand talents, and had
nothing to pay. We were wretched bankrupts, without hope of discharging
ourselves. We could never have freed ourselves from our load of liabilities,
and were daily getting deeper and deeper involved. All this the Lord Jesus saw
and undertook to remedy. He engaged to “ransom and redeem us.” He came to
“proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that
are bound.” “He came to redeem us from the curse of the law.” (Hos. xiii. 14.
Isa. lxi. 1. Gal. iii. 13.)
We were all by
nature shipwrecked and cast away. We could never have reached the harbour of
everlasting life. We were sinking in the midst of the waves, shiftless,
hopeless, helpless, and powerless; tied and bound by the chain of our sins, foundering
under the burden of our own guilt, and like to become a prey to the devil. All
this the Lord Jesus saw and undertook to remedy. He came down from heaven to be
our mighty “helper.” He came “to seek and to save that which was lost,” and to
“deliver us from going down into the pit.” (Psa. lxxxix. 19. Luke six. 10. Job
xxxiii. 24.)
Could we have been
saved without the Lord Jesus Christ coming down from heaven? It would have been
impossible, so far as our eyes can see. The wisest men of Egypt, and Greece,
and Rome never found out the way to peace with God. Without the friendship of
Christ we should all have been lost for evermore in hell.
Was the Lord Jesus
Christ obliged to come down to save us? Oh! no! no! It was His own free love,
mercy, and pity that brought Him down. He came unsought and unasked, because He
was gracious.
Reader, think on
these things. Search all history from the beginning of the world. Look round
the whole circle of those you know and love. You never heard of such friendship
among the sons of men. There never was such a real friend in need as Jesus
Christ.
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II. Do you want a friend in deeds? Such a friend is the Lord Jesus Christ.
ReplyDeleteThe true extent of a man’s friendship must be measured by his deeds. Tell me not what he says, and feels, and wishes. Tell me not of his words and letters. Tell me rather what he does. “Friendly is that friendly does.”
Reader, the doings of the Lord Jesus Christ for man, are the grand proof of His friendly feeling towards him. Never were there such acts of kindness and self-denial as those which He has performed on our behalf. He has not loved us in word only but in deed.
For our sakes He took our nature upon Him, and was born of a woman. He who was very God, and equal with the Father, laid aside for a season His glory and took upon Him flesh and blood like our own. The Almighty Creator of all things became a little babe like any of us, and experienced all our bodily weaknesses and infirmities, sin only excepted. “Though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, that ye through his poverty might be rich.” (2 Cor. viii. 9.)
For our sakes He lived thirty-three years in this evil world, despised and rejected of men, a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief. Though He was King of kings, He had not where to lay His head. Though He was Lord of lords, He was often weary, and hungry, and thirsty, and poor. “He took on him the form of a servant, and humbled himself.” (Philipp. iii. 7. 8.)
For our sakes He suffered the most painful of all deaths, even the death of the cross. Though innocent and without fault He allowed Himself to be condemned, and found guilty. He who was the Prince of Life was led as a lamb to the slaughter and poured out His soul unto death. He “died for us.” (1 Thess. v. 10.)
Was He obliged to do this? Oh! No! He might have summoned to His help more than twelve legions of angels and scattered His enemies with a word. He suffered voluntarily and of His own free will, to make atonement for our sins. He knew that nothing but the sacrifice of His body and blood could ever make peace between sinful man and a Holy God. He laid down His life to pay the price of our redemption. He died that we might live. He suffered that we might reign. He bore shame that we might receive glory. “He suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God.” “He was made sin for us, who knew no sin: that we might be made the righteousness of God in him.” (1 Peter iii. 18. 2 Cor. v. 21.)
Reader, such friendship as this passes man’s under-standing. Friends who would die for those who love them, we may have heard of sometimes. But who can find a man who would lay down his life for those that hate him? Yet this is what Jesus has done for us. “God commendeth his love, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Rom. v. 8.)
Ask all the tribes of mankind from one end of the world to the other and you will nowhere hear of a deed like this. None was ever so high and stooped down so low as Jesus the Son of God. None ever gave so costly a proof of His friendship. None ever paid so much, and endured so much to do good to others. Never was there such a friend in deed as Jesus Christ!
III. Do you want a mighty and powerful friend? Such a friend is Jesus Christ.
ReplyDeletePower to help is that which few possess in this world. Many have will enough to do good to others, but no power. They feel for the sorrows of others and would gladly relieve them if they could. They can weep with their friends in affliction, but are unable to take their grief away. But though man is weak, Christ is strong. Though the best of our earthly friends is feeble, Christ is almighty. “All power is given unto him in heaven and earth.” (Matt. xxviii. 18.) No one can do so much for those whom he befriends as Jesus Christ. Others can befriend their bodies a little. He can befriend both body and soul. Others can do a little for them in time. He can be a friend both for time and eternity.
He is able to pardon and save the very chief of sinners. He can deliver the most guilty conscience from all its burdens and give it perfect peace with God. He can wash away the vilest stains of wickedness, and make a man whiter than snow in the sight of God. He can clothe a poor weak child of Adam in everlasting righteousness, and give him a title to heaven, that can never be overthrown. In a word, He can give any one of us peace, hope, forgiveness, and reconciliation with God, if we will only trust in Him. “The blood of Jesus Christ cleanseth from all sin.” (1 John i. 7.)
He is able to convert the hardest of hearts, and create in man a new spirit. He can take the most thoughtless and ungodly people and give them another mind by the Holy Ghost which He puts in them. He can cause old things to pass away, and all things to become new. He can make them love the things which they once hated, and hate the things which they once loved. “He can give them power to become the sons of God.” “If any man be in Christ he is a new creature.” (John i. 12. 2 Cor. v. 17.)
He is able to preserve to the end all who believe in Him, and become His disciples. He can give them grace to overcome the world, the flesh, and the devil, and fight a good fight to the last. He can lead them on safely in spite of every temptation, carry them home through a thousand dangers, and keep them faithful, though they stand alone and have none to help them. “He is able to save them to the uttermost that come unto God by him.” (Heb. vii. 25.)
He is able to give those that love Him the best of gifts. He can give them in life inward comforts which money can never buy, peace in poverty, joy in sorrow, patience in suffering. He can give them in death bright hopes, which enable them to walk through the dark valley without fear. He can give them after death a crown of glory, which fadeth not away, and a reward, compared to which the Queen of England has nothing to bestow.
Reader, this is power indeed. This is true greatness. This is real strength. Go and look at the poor Hindoo idolater, seeking peace in vain by afflicting his body, and after fifty years of self-imposed suffering, unable to find it. Go and look at the benighted Romanist giving money to his priest to pray for his soul, and yet dying without comfort. Go and look at rich men spending thousands in search of happiness, and yet always discontented and unhappy. Then turn to Jesus and think what He can do, and is daily doing for all who trust Him. Think how He heals all the broken-hearted, comforts all the sick, cheers all the poor that trust in Him, and supplies all their daily need. The fear of man is strong. The opposition of this evil world is mighty. The lusts of the flesh rage horribly. The fear of death is terrible. The devil is a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. But Jesus is stronger than them all. Jesus can make us conquerors over all these foes. And then say whether it be not true, that there never was so mighty a friend as Jesus Christ.
IV. Do you want a loving and affectionate friend? Such a friend is Jesus Christ.
ReplyDeleteKindness is the very essence of true friendship. Money and advice and help lose half their grace if not given in a loving manner. What kind of love is that of the Lord Jesus toward man? It is called “a love that passeth knowledge.” (Ephes. iii. 19.)
Love shines forth in His reception of sinners. He refuses none that come to Him for salvation, however unworthy they may be. Though their lives may have been most wicked, though their sins may be more in number than the stars of heaven, the Lord Jesus is ready to receive them, and give them pardon and peace. There is no end to His compassion. There are no bounds to His pity. He is not ashamed to befriend those whom the world casts off as hopeless. There are none too bad, too filthy, and too much diseased with sin, to be admitted into His home. He is willing to be the friend of any sinner. He has kindness and mercy and healing medicine for all. He has long proclaimed this to be His rule: “Him that cometh unto me I will in no wise cast out.” (John vi. 37.)
Love shines forth in His dealings with sinners, after they have believed in Him and become His friends. He is very patient with them, though their conduct is often very trying and provoking. He is never tired of hearing their complaints, however often they may come to Him. He sympathizes deeply in all their sorrows. He knows what pain is. He is acquainted with grief. In all their afflictions He is afflicted. He never allows them to be tempted above what they are able to bear.
He supplies them with daily grace for their daily conflict. Their poor services are acceptable to Him. He is as well pleased with them as a parent is with his child’s endeavours to speak and walk. He has caused it to be written in His book, that “He taketh pleasure in His people,” and that “He taketh pleasure in them that fear him.” (Psalm cxlvii. 11; cxlix. 4.)
Ah! reader, there is no love on earth that can be named together with this. We love those in whom we see something that deserves our affection, or those who are our bone or our flesh. The Lord Jesus loves sinners in whom there is no good thing. We love those from whom we get some return for our affection. The Lord Jesus loves those who can do little or nothing for Him compared to what He does for them. We love where we can give some reason for loving. The great Friend of sinners draws His reasons out of His own everlasting compassion. His love is purely disinterested, purely unselfish, purely free. Never, never was there so truly loving a friend as Jesus Christ.
V. Do you want a wise and prudent friend? Such a friend is the Lord Jesus Christ.
ReplyDeleteMan’s friendship is sadly blind. He often injures those he loves by injudicious kindness. He often errs in the counsel he gives. He often leads his friends into trouble by bad advice, even when he means to help them. He sometimes keeps them back from the way of life, and entangles them in the vanities of the world, when they have well nigh escaped. The friendship of the Lord Jesus is not so. It always does us good and never evil.
The Lord Jesus never spoils His friends by extravagant indulgence. He gives them everything that is really for their benefit. He withholds nothing from them that is really good. But He requires them to take up their cross daily and follow Him. He bids them endure hardships as good soldiers. He calls on them to fight the good fight against the world, the flesh, and the devil. His people often dislike it at the time and think it hard. But when they reach heaven they will see it was all well done.
The Lord Jesus makes no mistakes in managing His friends’ affairs. He orders all their concerns with perfect wisdom. All things happen to them at the right time, and in the right way. He gives them as much of sickness and as much of health,—as much of poverty and as much of riches, —as much of sorrow and as much of joy, as He sees their souls require. He leads them by the right way to bring them to the city of habitation. ( Psal. cvii. 7.) He mixes their bitterest cups like a wise physician, and takes care that they have not a drop too little or too much. His people often misunderstand His dealings. They are silly enough to fancy their course of life might have been better ordered. But in the resurrection day they will thank God that not their will, but Christ’s was done.
Reader, look round the world and see the harm which people are continually getting from their friends. Mark how much more ready men are to encourage one another in worldliness and levity, than to provoke to love and good works. Think how often they meet together, not for the better but for the worse,—not to quicken one another’s souls in the way to heaven, but to confirm one another in the love of this present world. Alas! there are thousands who are wounded unexpectedly in the house of their friends!
And then turn to the great Friend of sinners, and see how different a thing is His friendship from that of man. Listen to Him as He walks by the way with His disciples. Mark how He comforts, reproves, and exhorts with perfect wisdom. Observe how He times His visits to those He loves, as to Mary and Martha at Bethany. Hear how He converses, as He dines on the shore of the sea of Galilee, “Simon son of Jonas, lovest thou me.” (John xxi. 16.) His company is al-ways sanctifying. His gifts are always for our soul’s good. His kindness is always wise. His friendship is always to edification. One day of the Son of Man is better than a thousand in the society of earthly friends. One hour spent in private communion with Him, is better than a year in kings’ palaces. Never, never, was there such a wise friend as Jesus Christ.
VI. Do you want a tried and proved friend? Such a friend is Jesus Christ.
ReplyDeleteSix thousand years have passed away since the Lord Jesus began His work of befriending mankind. During that long period of time He has had many friends in this world. Millions on millions, unhappily, have refused His offers and been miserably lost for ever. But thousands on thousands have enjoyed the mighty privilege of His friendship and been saved. He has had great experience. He has had friends of every rank and station in life. Some of them were kings and rich men, like David, and Solomon, and Hezekiah, and Job. Some of them were very poor in this world, like the shepherds of Bethlehem, and James, and John, and Andrew. But they were all alike Christ’s friends.
He has had friends of every age that man can pass through. Some of them never knew Him till they were advanced in years, like Manasseh, and Zacchaeus, and the Ethiopian Eunuch. Some of them were His friends even from their earliest childhood, like Joseph, and Samuel, and Josiah, and Timothy. But they were all alike Christ’s friends.
He has had friends of every possible temperament and disposition. Some of them were simple plain men, like Isaac. Some of them were mighty in word and deed, like Moses. Some of them were fervent and warm-hearted, like Peter. Some of them were gentle and retiring spirits, like John. Some of them were active and stirring, like Martha. Some of them loved to sit quietly at His feet, like Mary. Some dwelt unknown among their own people, like the Shunamite. Some have gone everywhere and turned the world upside down, like Paul. But they were all alike Christ’s friends.
He has had friends of every condition in life. Some of them were married and had sons and daughters, like Enoch. Some of them lived and died unmarried, like Daniel and John the Baptist. Some of them were often sick, like Lazarus and Epaphroditus. Some of them were strong to labour, like Persia, and Tryphena, and Tryphosa. Some of them were masters, like Abraham and Cornelius. Some of them were servants, like the saints in Nero’s household. Some of them had bad servants, like Elisha. Some of them had bad masters, like Obadiah. Some of them had bad wives and children, like David. But they were alike Christ’s friends.
He has had friends of almost every nation, and people, and tongue. He has had friends in hot countries and in cold; friends among nations highly civilized, and friends among the simplest and rudest tribes. His book of life contains the names of Greeks and Romans, of Jews and Egyptians, of bond and of free. There are to be found on its lists reserved Englishmen and cautious Scotsmen, impulsive Irishmen and fiery Welshmen, volatile Frenchmen and dignified Spaniards, refined Italians and solid Germans, rude Africans and refined Hindoos, cultivated Chinese and half-savage New Zealanders. But they were all alike Christ’s friends.
All these have made trial of Christ’s friendship, and proved it to be good. They all found nothing wanting when they began. They all found nothing wanting as they went on. No lack, no defect, no deficiency was ever found by any one of them in Jesus Christ. Each found his own soul’s wants fully supplied. Each found every day, that in Christ there was enough and to spare. Never, never was there a friend so fully tried and proved as Jesus Christ.
VII. Last, but not least, do you want an unfailing friend? Such a friend is the Lord Jesus Christ.
ReplyDeleteThe saddest part of all the good things of earth, is their instability. Riches make themselves wings and flee away. Youth and beauty are but for a few years. Strength of body soon decays. Mind and intellect are soon exhausted. All is perishing. All is fading. All is passing away. But there is one splendid exception to this general rule, and that is the friendship of Jesus Christ.
The Lord Jesus is a friend who never changes. There is no fickleness about Him. Those whom He loves, He loves unto the end. Husbands have been known to forsake their wives. Parents have been known to cast off their children. Human vows and promises of faithfulness have often been forgotten. Thousands have been neglected in their poverty and old age, who were honoured by all when they were rich and young. But Christ never changed His feelings toward one of His friends. He is “the same yesterday, today, and for ever.” (Heb. xiii. 8.)
The Lord Jesus never goes away from His friends. There is never a parting and good-bye between Him and His people. From the time that He makes His abode in a sinner’s heart, He abides in it for ever. The world is full of leave-takings and departures. Death and the lapse of time break up the most united family. Sons go forth to make their way in life. Daughters are married and leave their father’s house for ever. Scattering, scattering, scattering, is the yearly history of the happiest home. How many we have tearfully watched as they drove away from our doors, whose pleasant faces we have never seen again! How many we have sorrowfully followed to the grave, and then come back to a cold, silent, lonely, and blank fireside! But thanks be to God! there is One who never leaves His friends. The Lord Jesus is He who has said, “I will never leave thee nor forsake thee.” (Heb. xiii. 5.)
The Lord Jesus goes with His friends wherever they go. There is no possible separation between Him and those whom He loves. There is no place or position on earth or under the earth that can divide them from the great Friend of their souls. When the path of duty calls them far away from home, He is their companion. When they pass through the fire and water of fierce tribulation, He is with them. When they lie down on the bed of sickness, He stands by them, and makes all their trouble work for good. When they go down the valley of the shadow of death, and friends and relatives stand still and can go no further, He goes down by their side. When they wake up in the unknown world of Paradise, they are still with Him. When they rise with a new body at the judgment day, they will not be alone. He will own them for His friends, and say, “they are mine, deliver them and let them go free.” He will make good His own words, “I am with you always, even unto the end of the world.” (Matt. xxviii. 20.)
Reader, look round the world and see how failure is written on all man’s schemes. Count up the partings, and separations, and disappointments, and bereavements which have happened under your own knowledge. Think what a privilege it is that there is One at least who never fails, and in whom no one was ever disappointed! Never, never was there so unfailing a friend as Jesus Christ.
And now, reader, suffer me to conclude this tract with a few plain words of application to your own case. I know not who you are or in what state your soul may be. But I am sure that the words I am about to say deserve your serious attention. Oh! that the gatherings of Christmas may not find you heedless of spiritual things! Oh! that you may be able at Christmas to give a few thoughts to Christ!
1. Know then, for one thing, that I call upon you to consider solemnly whether Christ is your Friend, and you are His.
ReplyDeleteThere are thousands on thousands, I grieve to say, who are not Christ’s friends. Baptized in His name, outward members of His church, attendants on His means of grace,—all this they are no doubt. But they are not Christ’s friends. Do they hate the sins which Jesus died to put away? No. Do they love the Saviour who came into the world to save them? No. Do they care for the souls which were so precious in His sight? No. Do they delight in the word of reconciliation? No. Do they try to speak with the Friend of sinners in prayer? No. Do they seek close fellowship with Him? No. Oh, reader, is this your case. How is it with you? Are you or are you not one of Christ’s friends?
2. Know, in the next place, that if you are not one of Christ’s friends, you are a poor, miserable man.
I write this down deliberately. I do not say it without thought. I say that if Christ be not your friend, you are a poor, miserable man.
You are in the midst of a failing, sorrowful world, and you have no real source of comfort, or refuge for a time of need. You are a dying creature, and you are not ready to die. You have sins, and they are not forgiven. You are going to be judged, and you are not prepared to meet God. You might be, but you refuse to use the one only Mediator and Advocate. You love the world better than Christ. You refuse the great Friend of sinners, and you have no friend in heaven to plead your cause. Yes! it is sadly true. You are a poor, miserable man. It matters nothing what your income is. Without Christ’s friendship you are very poor.
3. Know, in the third place, that if you really want a friend, Christ is willing to become your friend.
ReplyDeleteHe has long wanted you to join His people, and He now invites you by my hand. He is ready to receive you, all unworthy as you may feel, and to write your name down in the list of His friends. He is ready to pardon all the past, to clothe you with righteousness, to give you His Spirit, to make you His own dear child. All He asks you to do is to come to Him.
He bids you come with all your sins, only acknowledging your vileness, and confessing that you are ashamed. Just as you are,—waiting for nothing,—unworthy of anything in yourself,—Jesus bids you come and be His friend.
Ah! reader, come and be wise. Come and be safe. Come and be happy. Come and be Christ’s friend.
4. Know, in the last place, that if Christ is your friend, you have great privileges, and ought to walk worthy of them.
Seek every day to have closer communion with Him who is your Friend, and to know more of His grace and power. True Christianity is not merely the believing a certain set of dry abstract propositions. It is to live in daily personal communication with an actual living person, Jesus, the Son of God. “To me,” said Paul, “to live is Christ.” (Phil. i. 21.)
Seek every day to glorify your Lord and Saviour in all your ways. He that hath a friend should show himself friendly, and no man surely is under such mighty obligations as the friend of Christ. Avoid everything which would grieve your Lord. Fight hard against besetting sins, against inconsistency, against backwardness to confess Him before men. Say to your soul, whenever you are tempted to that which is wrong, “Soul, soul, is this thy kindness to thy friend?”
Think, above all, of the mercy which has been shown thee, and learn to rejoice daily in thy Friend! What though thy body be bowed down with disease! What though thy poverty and trials be very great! What though thine earthly friends forsake thee, and thou art alone in the world! All this may be true, but if thou art in Christ, thou hast a Friend, a mighty Friend, a loving Friend, a wise Friend, a Friend that never fails. Oh! think, think much upon thy Friend!
Yet a little time, and thy Friend shall come to take thee home, and thou shalt dwell with Him for ever. Yet, a little time, and thou shalt see as thou hast been seen, and know as thou hast been known. And then thou shalt hear assembled worlds confess, that HE IS THE RICH AND HAPPY MAN WHO HAS HAD CHRIST FOR HIS FRIEND.